My parents are really frugal people. Cheaper was almost always better in their minds and they taught me to be careful with my money. For the most part this is a good trait and I am thankful for their teaching. But it has also been a hangup for me on occasion.
I was in Hawaii with my 9 year old son. (His Christmas present that year was a trip to Hawaii for just the two of us.) We were only there a few days, but we made time to do a little shopping to buy trinkets for our family back home. There was local jewelry vendor who made beautiful earrings and necklaces from sea glass and pearls and shells that she would collect from the beach herself. They were all lovely and there was one pair of earrings that really caught my eye. But I felt so guilty spending money on myself. I was already in Hawaii and it felt like a splurge to buy something for myself when I was suppose to be buying gifts for others. But I really liked her stuff so I ended up buying a cheaper pair of earrings on sale. This pair was less then $20 difference than the pair I really wanted. But I felt compelled to be frugal, so buying something cheaper made me feel less guilty.
I almost never wear those earrings. I don’t really like them that much. And everytime I see them I wish that I had bought the pair of earrings that I had really wanted!
Sometimes getting what you really wanted is the right choice, even if it’s a little out of your budget. I hear from so many people that say they wish that they had just spent the money on a professional photographer. Or spent the extra to have the wedding photographer that they really wanted. They are unhappy with their photos and so the memory of their wedding is always tainted with that thought. Cheaper is not always better. And if photos are important to you now than they will still be important to you in 10 years, or 20 years. Do future yourself a favor and get what you really want. It’s worth it.
May you have all that your heart desires.